What Does Female Sex and Love Addiction Look Like?

Heather Cronemiller and Lacy Bentley join Dr. Rob to talk about female sex addiction and the damage it can cause families. Both Lacy and Heather share their personal experience with being the ‘other woman’ and how, despite it going against everything they believed in, they still continued down a path of destruction. When it comes to any form of addiction, what we're really fighting against is deeply broken attachment wounds. Find out more on today’s episode. 

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[2:40] A little bit about Lacy and how she got introduced with Dr. Rob. 

[3:20] A little bit about Heather and how she met Dr. Rob. 

[5:30] Despite being married, Heather felt like she wasn’t with her soul mate. Everything she thought love was, was wrong. 

[6:15] What does mature love feel like?

[8:55] Heather realized through her own recovery, her husband is a wonderful man and replacing him with the ‘flavor of the month’ won’t fix the problem. 

[13:35] What is polygamy and does it actually exist? Is it just a mask for sex addiction? 

[21:00] Why is sex ‘never enough’ when working with sex addicts?

[23:35] What does it look like to work with someone like Lacy as a female sex addict? 

[25:00] Heather shares her personal experience working with Lacy and how it helped her move forward and on a healthier path of recovery. 

[26:15] Heather talks about her recovery journey and what that looks like for her.

[30:15] Lucy and Heather talk about their upcoming book, Going Deeper for Women! 

[38:15] How does addiction bleed into other aspects of our lives? 

[41:10] Heather shares why their book is going to help any woman going through addiction. 

[47:10] There are nasty names we call women that we don’t call men, despite them both doing the same actions. 

[50:50] Dr. Rob has met very few men who understand the experience of a woman and what she has to deal with when she goes out into the world. 

RESOURCES:

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

Sex Addiction 101 

Seeking Integrity

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men 

Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency

Out of the Doghouse by Robert Weiss

Herrecoveryroadmap.com

Oakhaven-counseling.com

Going Deeper for Women

 

QUOTES:

• “Mature love is a choice and that can be complicated to say because it doesn’t feel like a choice.”

• “How many partners do you need for it to be ‘enough’? In sex addiction, it’s never enough.”

• “We are dealing with attachment wounds. We are dealing with childhood trauma. We’re not dealing with a woman who has a fully functional relational brain..”