BONUS: Q&A with Rob & Tami - My Addict’s Therapist Blames Me for His Wrong Doings!

Rob and Tami explain in depth what a betrayed spouse is going through during the first year and a half after a reveal, and what a person in recovery can do about it. They also answer listener questions about porn addiction since the age of 10, and what to do when a CSAT therapist sides with the addict and not with the betrayed spouse.

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[0:25] My wife hates me. When will it stop?

[2:25] Dr. Rob explains why it’s important for betrayed spouses to find a place to vent outside of your home with the addict.

[4:25] He’s just not getting it! Will I ever get empathy from my addict?

[8:00] I have been a compulsive user of sexual fantasy since I was 10. I’m struggling. How do I become normal again?

[13:15] As a betrayed spouse, I’m seeing red flags with my husband’s current therapist. The therapist blames me!

[15:40] Not all therapists are good therapists. You do get a mixed bag and it can be a journey to find the right one.

[18:45] My addict broke my boundaries. What do I do?

[25:35] At Seeking Integrity, Dr. Rob and his team turn boys into men.

[27:35] Is there something wrong with me that I want to be intimate with my untrustworthy addict?

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating Book by Robert Weiss

Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Book by Robert Weiss

Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction by Robert Weiss

Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating Book by Robert Weiss

Cruise Control Book by Robert Weiss

 

QUOTES

• “After a year and a half, I will say to betrayed spouses that, at a certain point, your anger can be unproductive.”
• “I think it’s important for every betrayed spouse to have a place to go where they can vent because addicts need some space from you in order to grow, even though we deserve [the anger]!”
• “Stopping the bad behavior I can do in a month or two, but becoming a good person can take a long time. A lot of therapy.”
• “Stopping the behavior is critically important, but also address the underlying issues. There’s a reason we use these addictions as an escape.”